Being young and already feeling behind!!

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Hey Boo! I hope you are having a great day. Today I want to talk about something, vulnerable. I have personally been filling like this for a few years now. And I personally think that I am not alone.

I was born in the early 2000s. So, I grow up half with and half without social media. I personally did not get a phone before I was 9 years old. Even thot that is still quite young. A lot of people today got a phone a lot younger than I was. Before social media the only people we could compare us to, was the people around us. Like family and friends. Most people live very normal lives. So, their accomplishments seemed reachable and realistic. So, the pressure to succeed though still there, wasn’t ass heavy. At least in my experience.

Due to social media, there is allot more opportunities available to make a living. You can make a lot of money on it through advertising. But many fake the things they pose. Like renting expensive cars, clothes or bags, or photoshop their photos to get a certain look. Even changing their apereas completely. In the end their whole life they portray on the internet is all fake. It looks way more glamorous and luxuries then it actually is. It becomes a competition of how has the best, riches and most glamorous life.

But where dose that live the average person. When all you see from a very young age, are people that fake their lives for appearance’s sake. Now the pressure to succeed gets even heavier, because the threshold for succeed gets narrower. Before the average person only needed so make enough for their family to live comfortably. Now you are supposed to live comfortably, whit a big house a luxury car and so go on holiday a few times a year. If you can’t afford all of this many view you as a failure. For the average person is can be very difficult to achieve all of this. Though not impossible, it can put immense pressure on a person and make them feel inadequate. Especially because how all-consuming social media currently is with the algorithms that are today. They are designed to make you addicted.

I used to struggle with feeling inadequate when I was in my late teens. Around 16-19. That is also the years you are in high school in Norway. So, a lot happened at once. High school I started working and this fall I am hopefully starting my journey towards higher education. So, now that I am in my early 20s and have some real-life experience. I feel more and more hopeful for the future.

First, I started to take selflove seriously. I sat aside time for myself every single week. That was a good start. But honestly getting older helped the most. The older I get, the less I care about others opinion about me. I care most about I view myself and what I want for my future. Also, I compare myself less with people I see on the internet. And I stopped following people that made me feel bad about myself. Instead, I started following people that inspired me. And were realistic. People that seemed transparent and authentic. That lived real lives with both the good and bad. I started reading and improving myself. And most of all I made a plan that was doable. I sat realistic goals and started building healthy habits. This blog is actually something that I started to challenge myself. Because I want to improve myself. And grow!

So, I hope this post can help someone that is feeling down and inadequate. You are not stuck where you are. You just have to give it time. And work on yourself slowly. Because one day you are going to wake up and feel a little better den the day before. And as you keep going. You are going to feel better and better over time. Until you get to where you want to be. But remember this is not a linear rode. Some days are easy and others are hard. As long as you get trough it that is all that matters!!

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Thank you sooo much for taking the time to read this post. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you!! Remember to love yourself!!! You are beautiful, unique, and deserving of love just the way you are

Love you bayyy <3